“Can I just debunk this fallacy once and for all by stating that fathers that actually SEEK CUSTODY of children get it 50 percent of the time? http://parenting.blogs.nytimes.com/2009/11/17/more-fathers-getting-custody-in-divorce/?_r=0 However, most fathers in divorce cases don’t usually seek custody, and allow the mother to take custody of the kids lol. That’s not the mothers fault at all. So stop with this BS.”
Update***: This was Originally a Youtube comment but it got me really fired up that I wanted to mention this on my blog. Fathers who actually seek custody are granted it 50 percent of the time. Most fathers don’t seek custody and allow the mothers to take custody over the children. That’s why child support is requested so often of the father and why there are so many issues surrounding child support and failure of payments on the part of the father. That is also why you see that the majority of the time the mother is the one that usually has custody–because both parties agree to it. Keep in mind also that most custody agreements are settled out of court but if pursued in court, the father is granted custody 50% of the time, and the reality is most choose not to take it to court. It is more complicated and deeper than one thinks but from what I’ve seen and researched–it is the mothers doing more to raise their children and support their families. I also know that this is changing, albeit slowly, however, I am glad that more fathers are stepping up to the plate. Here are additional links and sources:
- The Myth of The Gender Bias – http://www.huffingtonpost.com/cathy-meyer/dispelling-the-myth-of-ge_b_1617115.html
- How Mothers Lose Custody- https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/20140820144335-30087481-the-new-rules-in-family-law-how-and-why-mothers-lose-custody-rights
- More Fathers Getting Custody – http://parenting.blogs.nytimes.com/2009/11/17/more-fathers-getting-custody-in-divorce/?_r=0
I hope that this helps and feel free to correct me or post your own links or sources disproving this. What I want for everyone is to do their own research and go based on facts , evidence, and your own life experiences and not base your opinions on popular opinions or others. Also, look at ALL the evidence presented before making a conclusion about gender issues and others. Anyways, it is always fun to debunk misconceptions :). Have a great weekend!