A woman’s appearance shouldn’t determine her worth in society, but apparently it does and that’s the first thing that people notice. This speech is empowering and definitely resonates. We place more value on a woman’s beauty than on her knowledge, wisdom, intellect, and choices. I hope this is enlightening and empowering for all of you (both men and woman) as it was for me. I love these two so much!!
Note: I feel that men aren’t judged as harshy in society and can get away with alot of shit (and they have). We women are more critical of ourselves and each other at times –but it doesn’t have to be that way. However, it’s up to all of us to change it , and to change the conditioning of this current patriarchal society and I can see and feel it changing already.
We should place less scrutiny on a woman’s appearance to determine her worth so that way they can focus on the things that matter. Like her success in school, sports, activism, the arts, music, writing, medicine, engineering, ect. In a society that profits off of a woman’s insecurities, we would do ourselves well to try to retain our confidence and own our “flaws” and “mishaps” and instead try to transform them into something unique and beautiful about us. Nothing to be ashamed about or to try to cover up! Freckles and beauty marks are beautiful and unique only to you!
Sadly, even my own mother who was raised in a different era was taught that girls were supposed to be primp and pretty and clean and decent at all times. It was inexcusable for a girl to be messy but boys can. ” You are a girl you should clean yourself all the time.”
“You are a girl you shouldn’t be messy.”
” Take a shower, wash your hands, put on deodorant at all times every day, every hour, every minute.”
My future daughters will be free to pursue her own endeavors and if she is messy so be it, if she is primp and cleanly at all times so be it. As long as she is herself, as long as she is her because this is her journey.
Even my own mother grew up in the patriarchy and she was quiet and obedient and it hasn’t left her yet. I hope it ends with me…actually, I know it will end with me.